How Counselling Can Support Neurodivergent Children

As a Counsellor working closely with children and young people, I have the privilege of supporting many neurodivergent clients, including those on the autism spectrum. At Balance Counselling, I deeply value the unique ways in which neurodivergent individuals experience the world. It’s important to recognise that neurodivergence isn’t something to be “fixed” — rather, it is a difference in thinking, feeling, and processing, which often comes with both strengths and challenges.

Counselling for neurodivergents is a gentle, client-led process that provides a safe and accepting space where children can explore their emotions, experiences, and identities at their own pace. Many neurodivergent children face increased anxiety, sensory sensitivities, social overwhelm, and challenges with emotional regulation. These experiences can lead to difficulties at school, in friendships, or within the family, and that’s where counselling can make a meaningful difference.

If you're a parent with a neurodivergent child, you may already be experiencing these emotions. You can book a free 15-minute phone consultation to discuss personalised support here.

One of the key goals in my work is to help neurodivergent children feel seen and heard, just as they are. Through creative and flexible approaches, we work together to build emotional understanding, resilience, and coping strategies that are tailored to each child’s individual needs. Whether that involves talking, drawing, using objects, or simply sitting quietly together, the focus is always on what feels safe and helpful for them.

Counselling for autism, in particular, requires sensitivity, patience, and an understanding of how autistic children might communicate differently. I do not believe in forcing eye contact or traditional “talk therapy” methods that can feel unnatural or uncomfortable. Instead, I take time to build trust and learn what each child needs from our sessions — whether that’s structure, routine, or room for free expression. Parents and carers are also welcome into the process as needed, to help bridge the support between counselling and home life.

Another important aspect of counselling for neurodivergents is validation. So often, neurodivergent children are told they are “too sensitive,” “too much,” or “not trying hard enough.” In our sessions, I offer a different message: that it’s okay to feel how you feel, and that your way of experiencing the world is valid and valued. This can have a powerful impact on a child’s self-esteem and sense of identity.

I often work alongside schools, support workers, and other professionals to ensure that children receive joined-up care. But at the heart of everything is the therapeutic relationship — the consistent, warm, and accepting presence that allows children to feel safe enough to be themselves.

If you are a parent or carer of a neurodivergent child and are considering counselling, please know that you are not alone. Counselling for neurodivergents can offer a nurturing space for both children and their families to find understanding, tools, and hope. I would be honoured to walk alongside you and your child on that journey.

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Warmly,

Joanna

Balance Counselling